You can choose any, all, or none of the wedding traditions you see in movies, TV, or popular culture. I’m not your boss and I won’t tell you what traditions to adhere to or which ones to drop. But when we meet up to plan your ceremony I will ask you why. Why, why, why!
Here’s my understanding of some of the wedding traditions I come across too often.
Having a bridal party
Bridal parties were introduced to confuse demons. If you’re worried about demons you’ve defs gotta have a bridal party. Watch me introduce the concept to Lisa Wilkinson and Karl Stefanovic on the Today Show.
Standing on a particular side
The “which side does the bride and groom stand on” debate began when grooms would often kidnap their brides and need to defend the wedding ceremony with their sword which they would need to swing with their sword hand, their right hand, and protect/hold/continue to kidnap their bride with their left hand.
The best man
The best man’s first job was to help defend that whole kidnapping thing. The ‘best’ part comes from his sword fighting ability. He was the best sword fighter. Seriously.
Wearing a wedding ring
Wearing a wedding ring was strictly a girl-only tradition until last century. The most modern version of the tradition sees the wedding ring as a kind of bridal collar, so that a girl would know who bought her.
Garter and bouquet toss
As a bride and groom left their wedding to go and play Scrabble in their ancient hotel room there was this terrible custom of tearing their clothes to shreds for luck, after all, the act of playing Scrabble as a husband and wife was a much sought after activity and the couple were obviously very lucky.
So they’d throw their least valuable things they had on themselves to distract the luck collectors.
Saying “I do”
Saying ” I do” originates from the Catholic wedding vows. And it looks good in movies. Do you think it’s necessary at your wedding? Do I think it could be a totally option al thing? I do.
White wedding gown
Queen Victoria wore one in 1840, obviously Cosmo Bride covered the event and now we all do it. I wish Princess Kate set a new trend for us all to follow!
Giving away the bride
If you thought the wedding business was big-time these days, you’ve seen nothing! Back in the day the biggest winners in a commercial sense as Dad played delivery man and delivered the product (the product is the bride in case you hadn’t figured that out yet) that had been purchased.
I know, it’s beautiful isn’t it.
We used to smash bread over the brides head and guests would collect crumbs for the ever-needed “luck”. They decided that cake was yummier … but harder to smash … so instead we cut the cake up and hand it out now. Just let it be known that if you’re eating the wedding cake then you’re doing it wrong. You’ve got to take it home and put it under your pillow. For luck.
A wedding ceremony … then later on … a reception
There’s only one reason that we have separate wedding ceremonies and receptions, and that’s because the town Priest wouldn’t let us get down and get nasty in the church.
But since 1961 in Australia you don’t have to be married in a church. So why are we still acting like we have to?
There’s probably millions more. I’ll keep on smashing traditions if you keep on letting me know about them, ok? 🙂