The second that you tell someone that you’re getting married, everyone has an opportunity to say this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, and I am not that guy. I’m not gonna come to your world and tell you how you’ve gotta get married and where you’re gonna get married and when you gotta get married and who you’ve gotta use. I’m not that guy. You don’t need that guy in your life. Me, I’m presenting a different way. Me, I’m presenting the Rebel’s Guide to Getting Married. This is how we do it. We just kind of look at everything through a critical eye, we ask questions, we say why, and we just look at getting married through a fresh set of eyes. That’s my job. I’m Josh Withers, I’m an Australian civil marriage celebrant, and I wanna look at getting married differently. So, hopefully, you have an awesome wedding not because I told you how to have an awesome wedding but because we actually talked about it like big kids and we said, hey, maybe this is how we can have an awesome wedding. And the place we’re gonna start today is with the wedding checklist. If you ever, and don’t, don’t do this, but if you wanna just kinda die inside, google wedding planning checklist, there’s so many things on there that’ll just slowly kill your very soul. Today, I’m presenting with you the most simple, beautiful wedding planning checklist you’ll ever come across. Step one, you need two people that do not hate one another. In fact, they might even really, really, deep down inside, like each other. Number two, in Australia, you need some witnesses. Depending on where you are, you might not need witnesses but you need two people that are 18 or over and they don’t even have to know you. They can be strangers, friends, family, parents, whatever. You need two people to see it. Next, you need a celebrant. Or in some countries, they call me an officiant. I’m the guy that creates and presents your ceremony. In Australia, I’ve got an Australian authority to marry people. Different countries have got different laws. But you need a celebrant or a marrying authority, that kinda thing. I recommend going with someone personal like myself. Some people like going to the courthouse and, I don’t know, I just think that’s a little bit impersonal. I think your marriage deserves more than that. Okay. You’ve got you two, two witnesses, a celebrant. You need to know where you’re gonna do it now. If you’re in the UK, you have to do places that the government says. If you’re in Australia, you can go anywhere. You can go above the ground, below the ground, ocean, air, whatever. You have to get married somewhere. And that where may need permission. So, if it’s a wedding venue, you might have to pay a fee. If it’s a park, you might need to pay a permit. Just, you know, ask the questions. It doesn’t matter where you get married, you just need to have a place. Once you have a place, you might need some furniture and places for people to sit and things to go on. Get the furniture you need and get the furniture you don’t need. If you don’t want it, I don’t care, I’m not your mum. Here’s one tip, though. Arbors, I don’t know. They’re not necessary and usually when you get married in an epic place, you just kinda don’t need to put more stuff in front of an epic place. Just let the epic place be epic. Anyway, I’m not gonna be the guy that hates on arbors. That will not be very popular for my first episode. Okay, you’ve got a place, you’ve got people. Now, you need, maybe you wanna capture the moments, photo, video. Just get people you really like, you like their business, you like their photos, you like their art, and let them be creative. Next, if you like things like flowers, lollies, DJs, bands, whatever, get things you like. This is like going shopping for groceries. You know how when you go shopping for groceries, you don’t get everything, you just get what you want? It’s like that. Okay, now, we’re almost done. You wanna look and feel amazing. I do that when I wear clothes that I love or got a sick haircut and I’ve got a bit of moisturizer. I don’t know, whatever you want to do to feel amazing, do that. You go to the barber, get a bit of hair and make-up. Just feel and look amazing. Finally, do you wanna eat food and drink things, then maybe get people to help with that. That, my friends, is a wedding. In fact, let me tell you, the very start where it’s just the two of you and a witness and myself, that’s a wedding. Everything else is just all how do we do you. And that’s what this podcast is gonna do. You. Not do you, but do you doing you, trying to figure out how do we do you in a wedding.
The official wedding celebrant of Fun!
Hi! My name is Josh Withers, I create awesome marriage ceremonies and MC fun wedding receptions for adventurous humans. I live on Australia's Gold Coast with my wife and family, but I travel the globe creating meaningful, personal, and enjoyable weddings for people just like you!
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