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Ideas and thoughts on the art of getting married

Why are we all so passionate about unplugged weddings?

Why are we all so passionate about unplugged weddings?

You might have noticed the same thing I’ve noticed lately while scrolling around Facebook. Or maybe you haven’t because you’re not friends with as many wedding photographers or videographers as I am. Everyone in the wedding industry is pushing for unplugged weddings.

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I’ve been awarded a WIPA three diamond award!

I’ve been awarded a WIPA three diamond award!

I’m a very lucky boy, I’m the first marriage celebrant in Australia to be awarded a WIPA Three Diamond award! What’s WIPA? It’s the “Wedding Industry Professionals of Australia” awards ran by the very excellent WEOA! What’s WEOA? WEOA stands for “Weddings and Events of Australia” and it’s an industry body that represents the professional end of the wedding industry.

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Choosing a celebrant, my WedTalk interview

Choosing a celebrant, my WedTalk interview

I was recently a guest on a new Wednesday night Queensland wedding talk show, hosted by Ellyse Sainty on Periscope. More info at wedvid.com.au. The good news for you is that you can watch some of the segments in this post!

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The importance of reviews

The importance of reviews

You're so lucky to be in the middle of such a personal and professional industry, the wedding industry. Whether you're a bride or groom, an interested onlooker, or one of the hard working vendors I'm lucky to rub shoulders with each day, you know how personal, intimate,...

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Listen to my interview on the @HumansOfTwitter podcast

Listen to my interview on the @HumansOfTwitter podcast

My friend Steve Molk makes a really fun podcast called 'Humans of Twitter' where he interviews humans from the social network, where you can follow me @joshuawithers, him at @molkstvtalk and the podcast @humansofthis. Listen to me spill my guts on who I am, where I'm from and...

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Knowing the rules

Knowing the rules

Britt's driving the car right now, I'm in the passenger seat, and we just tried to merge back onto the highway after a quick toilet stop. Normally a road trip wouldn't make its way onto the blog, but this merge resulted in a small dosage of road rage and now I'm thinking about...

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Getting married sitting down

Getting married sitting down

I'm slowly catching up on emails this week and finally got to a sweet email that Scott and Angel sent me after their wedding: The only feedback my husband and I have is...to keep doing what you do! You know you have an incredible celebrant when the words that he used in...

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Drawing a long bow

Drawing a long bow

Is there a link between celebrating marriages and re-inforcing male privilege that leads to domestic violence? Many in my community are terribly saddened by the loss of a young mum's life at the hands of domestic violence. Two lives in Australia are lost every week as a partner...

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A wedding reading from the US Supreme Court

A wedding reading from the US Supreme Court

Justice Anthony Kennedy,authored the US Supreme Court’s ruling legalizing same-sex marriage. He closed his ruling and opinion with one of the most beautiful passages you’ll likely read in a court case. I totally teared up, and it’s a passage I’ll be incorporating into many marriage ceremonies.

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Vow writing workshop on YouTube

Vow writing workshop on YouTube

I think that the most important aspect of the wedding day is that moment where you become husband and wife, your wedding vows. So I want to help you write amazing and person wedding vows!

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How to get marriage equality in Australia in 3 easy steps

How to get marriage equality in Australia in 3 easy steps

News reports today that some time in August, I’ve seen reports of 11th and 18th, a marriage equality bill will hit parliament and every single individual political gets the chance to vote on their own. They won’t have to look to mum and dad to find out how they’re allowed to vote.

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Can a husband take his wife’s last name?

Can a husband take his wife’s last name?

Britt just shared this article on Facebook about Zoe Saldana’s husband taking her last name, as opposed to the traditional, wife taking her husband’s last name. Boy, internet commentors are lovely people aren’t they!

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Lisa Simpson on marriage

Lisa Simpson on marriage

I love a good piece of Simpsons in any wedding ceremony. I’m researching for an upcoming ceremony and found this nugget out of an episode where normally Homer is only quoted.

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Will I do a nude wedding?

Will I do a nude wedding?

I’m sitting in a class full of Sydney wedding celebrants and just asked what the most common weird question they get asked was: will you do a nude wedding?

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Why marry?

Why marry?

I met up with Alex and Lisa yesterday, and Alex asked me the best question

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Alan Turing, The Imitation Game, and marriage equality

Alan Turing, The Imitation Game, and marriage equality

I'm on a flight to Bali writing this and have just gotten around to watching The Imitation Game, a movie about a Professor that stops a war. I'll let you research or watch the movie to learn more about Alan Turing's remarkable, extraordinarily influential, but depressingly...

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What’s so great about nerd weddings?

What’s so great about nerd weddings?

Nerd weddings are my favourite. And it has nothing to do with Superman cufflinks or walking down the aisle to the Imperial March. It’s actually crazy simple and that means this will be a crazy simple blog post:

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Sewing for Grooms

Sewing for Grooms

This is a simple invitation to the bridegrooms of Brisbane to come and make a bow tie, drink beer and play poker. Simple.

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How to get the best out of your wedding professionals (slaves)

How to get the best out of your wedding professionals (slaves)

Britt spends all day working with wedding vendors, photographers, venues, florists and other professionals as part of her role creating elopements in The Pop-Up Wedding. We figured that her experiences might help you in choosing people to work with in creating your marriage celebration.

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Why I (sometimes) hate rehearsals

Why I (sometimes) hate rehearsals

Everyone thinks you need a rehearsal when you don’t. Well, you might need one if your wedding is a show that everyone needs tickets to. Or if it’s an epic production. Or if it’s a show-off.

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“They told me this was impossible”

“They told me this was impossible”

Every corner I turn in life there seems to be a plethora of people telling other people why things can’t be done. I’m really proud to have so many friends that question that ridiculous idea every morning before breakfast. James Day is one of those people.

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What do I talk about in a wedding ceremony?

What do I talk about in a wedding ceremony?

Last night I watched some other celebrants on YouTube, because I realised I've never paid much attention to what others do. It turns out I do things quite a bit different. So I thought it would be worth a blog post to explain what I talk about in a wedding ceremony. I'm an...

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Why did I become a celebrant?

Why did I become a celebrant?

Normy from Divine Studios sat down with me recently and asked me about what I did. You'll see more of this video series coming soon, but here's a little drop on why I became a celebrant. Click play and enjoy 🙂 https://vimeo.com/126576652

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A note on wedding frendors (friend vendors) and saving $6000

A note on wedding frendors (friend vendors) and saving $6000

I just read this article on Offbeat Bride and had to share it. There's some really good points to think about when a friend is doing something, photography for example, that you'd normally pay $6000 for, for free. Read the whole article here, but I liked these little pull...

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Can you drink before your wedding ceremony?

Can you drink before your wedding ceremony?

I just met with Stefan and Sarah who wanted to assure me that they wouldn't drink before their wedding ceremony because another marriage celebrant at a different wedding had told all of those bridesmaids and bride at a different wedding that they weren't allowed to have any...

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Married At First Sight Australia cast

Married At First Sight Australia cast

If you click this link to the Channel Nine website you can find out which celebrant you know might be on television real soon! 9jumpin.com.au/show/married-at-first-sight/latest/pretx/credits/ Here's a promo video for the show, coming soon on Nine - or you can watch on Facebook...

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Host your wedding online, thanks to Ikea

Host your wedding online, thanks to Ikea

You might remember years ago I hosted the world's first Twitter wedding. Well Ikea have stepped up the game and have launched the extremely gimmicky, but a little bit cool and futuristic 'Wedding Online'. It's all in Swedish, as is the video below. I'm betting on this remaining...

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A fairy tale wedding reading

A fairy tale wedding reading

Once upon a time, a boy met a girl, she gave him her hand & he held it tight. Together, they set off down the unknown path in front of them. Sometimes they walked slowly; sometimes at a quicker pace. Sometimes they ran so fast it felt kind of like flying. Whenever he...

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OMG new awesome wedding magazine alert!

OMG new awesome wedding magazine alert!

This will be a short but exciting blog post. Short, because there's no use repeating what everyone else is saying. Mic.com blew the trumpet, and Bustle added GIFs, you can order it online here and there's a Kickstarter for the next issue! Feminism and weddings might not...

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Communication maketh a marriage

Communication maketh a marriage

From time to time I invite friends to guest blog on this blog, and today's post is one of those. If you're entering into marriage with love and good looks, but no communication, then Connie thinks you might need some help and education. I hope you enjoy Connie's article and if...

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How to be a rockin’ wedding MC

How to be a rockin’ wedding MC

You're the funny, loud, guy or gal that the bride and groom asked to MC their wedding reception? I was that guy a long time ago and now I'm that guy professionally. So hopefully I can offer some helpful tips! Don't stress about it too much, it's just a really awesome party. But...

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My case for a divorce ceremony

My case for a divorce ceremony

A friend joked recently that I need to work on "retaining clients", that I should go into the divorce business as well. As funny as that is, and despite my line that I don't really want "repeat business", I think there's room for more of something here: divorce ceremonies....

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The problem with having a problem with the wedding industry

The problem with having a problem with the wedding industry

I feel like every third Facebook post these days is a rant about the wedding industry and how we're snobby, rude, expensive, illegal, or dodgy. And more often than not the Facebook posts are not wrong, there's lots of losers out there. Losers is a pretty tough call, but in my...

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What is a pop-up wedding?

What is a pop-up wedding?

If you’ve got a spare hour, fire up your Googles and do a search for pop-up wedding. It’s quite an honour to have so many people loving the idea, but there’s always one question we get: what is a pop-up wedding. We honestly get an email every hour or two asking the same question. It’s a valid question, so don’t feel bad for asking.

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How Caitlin will change the world

How Caitlin will change the world

I'm marrying Caitlin's mum, to someone else of course, and when we met recently to chat about their wedding and create their ceremony, her mum hands me this yellow envelope with a note and $5.80 in silver and gold coins in it. The note reads: Dear Joash, I am pritty...

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Planning for a marriage, not a wedding

Planning for a marriage, not a wedding

A wedding fair I am hoping to go to in the near future asked on its application form who my target demographic is. Before you read on, stop for a second and think about how you would be described in a demographical sense.

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Broaden your wedding horizons

Broaden your wedding horizons

A short and quick tip today on how you can broaden your horizons, your view, your idea, of what a wedding is and can be: see other weddings more. So here's how I can help you do that today. I know everyone already gets my current weekly email from my blog, and my blog is fine,...

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Why have a wedding planner?

Why have a wedding planner?

I see soooo many - like 95% - of my couples planning their own weddings. Most couples “want to do it themselves", which is cool, but I see the majority of them tired when it comes to the big day. So where does a wedding planner come into the equation? I asked my friends at...

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My big secret: I don’t read a script

My big secret: I don’t read a script

I have a tendency to play 90s playlists on Spotify, I like wearing my PJ's past midday, and I'm a sucker for a good steak sandwich. And although those oddities (and not so oddities) make me quite the individual, there is one major redeeming feature of the 1981 Josh Withers...

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Hear me on “Save The Date” wedding podcast

Hear me on “Save The Date” wedding podcast

Aleisha McCormack, host of the awesome wedding radio show/podcast, Save The Date, recently invited me on to just ramble on about creating weddings that just scream “freakin’ weekend”. In English that means “really cool”.

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“I Like You”, a really cool wedding reading

“I Like You”, a really cool wedding reading

I'm always on the look out for new and different wedding readings and I love this one! It's called "I Like You" and it's an awesome children's book that fits right in at a wedding. It's by Sandol Stoddard Warburg and you can get it now on Amazon. At Nicole and Lee's elopement...

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Boomerang Farm wedding for Courtney and Shaun

Boomerang Farm wedding for Courtney and Shaun

Last year Britt and I desperately wanted to get to New York for a few weeks, and we did! However on the way home, Britt's husband (a real idiot!) misunderstood a few things and the Kayak travel app also misunderstood a few things and we got home 24 hours late and home with...

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How to get married in Bali

How to get married in Bali

It’s really exciting to make your own wedding plans in a destination like Bali. There’s the benefits of fewer guests, and the guests that do come are really into you guys and will no doubt make for a great party. But the biggest question that couples ask, or that some couples forget to ask is: how do I get legally married in Bali?

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The best laid wedding plans

The best laid wedding plans

Today’s blog post is almost word for a word a copy/paste from Seth Godin’s blog. But he blogs about business, and I’m blogging about weddings.

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Celebrating the Australian marriage tradition on Australia Day

Celebrating the Australian marriage tradition on Australia Day

Australia Day is a great time to reflect on what makes this nation great, so I want to bring something unique and meaningful to the Australia Day conversation this year and tell you the story of how Australia has been one of the most progressive countries in the world in regards to marriage.

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Interstellar wedding reading

Interstellar wedding reading

I’m late to the Interstellar party, but my tardiness led me to something awesome last night: I saw it on IMAX with my friend Steve and it was stellar, crazy, immersive, moving. There’s a scene in the movie where the team have to make a decision on where to go. I’m not wanting to give away the movie so I’ll leave details out, but the making of the decision takes the team through a logical and scientific conversation that starts to factor in love.

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Why I’m asking my couples to help eradicate child marriage

Why I’m asking my couples to help eradicate child marriage

A few weeks ago Britt and I asked our couples to start supporting Plan Australia’s campaign to eradicate child marriage. So many people have jumped on board and said yes. It’s so encouraging. Not that you guys would listen to us, that’s lovely. But because it affects real girls, who in their young life have been forced into marriage.

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Everything you need to know about a #wedding #selfie

Everything you need to know about a #wedding #selfie

Social media, be it Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, ello, Google+, LinkedIn, or that new fang-dangled network that wasn’t even invented when this was written, is such an amazing way to share your story. After all, that’s what we’re here for, creating, telling, sharing, an awesome story. Every day is a new page and your wedding ceremony, a new chapter.

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Your help needed

Your help needed

Last year (doesn't it feel cool saying that) I sent out an email to everyone on my email list, if you're not on it, subscribe here, and proposed a crazy idea: What if I hosted an event for all of the like-minded brides and grooms that are creating awesome weddings. So many...

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Huey Lewis and Method Man wedding readings

Huey Lewis and Method Man wedding readings

At Lindsay Bishop and her fiance’s wedding, they invited friends to bring a wedding reading. The first reading is a powerful message from the great poet, Hugh Anthony Cregg III. The second from Method Man.

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The common problem with wedding ceremony chair hire

The common problem with wedding ceremony chair hire

A quick survey of last year’s weddings tells me that 11% of wedding ceremonies had enough chairs for everyone to be seated. There’s nothing wrong with making people stand, but there’s a human brain thing that everyone is missing. Read on.

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I’m writing a wedding book!

I’m writing a wedding book!

2015 is going to be a great year. I can say that confidently because my calendar is mostly full before the year has even started, which is a crazy and awesome blessing for a small business owner. Britt’s running pop-up weddings around Australia and even internationally.

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Jurassic Park themed wedding has great DNA

Jurassic Park themed wedding has great DNA

When I saw Ellie and Spike’s wedding on the wedding planning subreddit of reddit.com, a little bit of nostalgia and a little bit of nerd in me pushed me to contact them to see if I could talk about their wedding on this blog.

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From NYC with love

From NYC with love

While Britt and I were in New York City last month we caught up with our favourite wedding photographers in the states, Luke and Mallory, and they took a few pics as we hung out for the day.

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How to be a rockstar celebrant

How to be a rockstar celebrant

Speaking to a group of people that don’t have to listen to you is a great honour and as a celebrant I’m lucky enough to do this daily. I never forget the great responsibility I have when I pick up that microphone.

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James and Amy’s Binna Burra wedding

James and Amy’s Binna Burra wedding

Winter fell on a Saturday this year, and for a few moments, a few of us had to put a jacket on. It was on this stunning Springbrook winter day that James and Amy pledged to spend the rest of their lives together.

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It’s the grooms day as well

It’s the grooms day as well

If there’s a phrase I would pay to never hear again, it would have to be “it’s the bride’s day”. The common myth is that the wedding is all about the bride and what she wants it’s got nothing to do with the groom.

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15021

15021

When I see numbers like 15,021 I wonder, what would I say if everyone was seated in front of me, and I had their attention for two minutes. What would I say to 15,021 people that are thinking about getting married?

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A meaningful wedding business

A meaningful wedding business

I've just read a great blog post by John Saddington on his journey creating Desk, a Mac app for bloggers, and the app I now use to write these blog posts. John’s thing was that he created something that he wanted, an awesome writing app, and then he wanted other...

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The traditional sides for the bride and groom

The traditional sides for the bride and groom

A common conversation I have with brides and grooms is “what side do I stand on?”. I really dislike this question, only because it implies there’s a correct side and an incorrect side for a bride and groom to stand on in a wedding ceremony, which there isn’t. They’re just sides, not battle stations.

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Why are weddings happy?

Why are weddings happy?

Weddings are happy. They’re awesome little things. But sometimes expectation, tradition and weird shit gets in the way. Here’s a guide to avoid that.

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